I have a pile of books on my bookshelf about raising kids written by some amazing authors.
I have read most and own many of the usual suspects when it comes to hippy la-la parenting and natural learning. Robin Grille, Alfie Kohn, Sandra Dodd, Dr Sears, Wendy Priestnitz, Naomi Aldort, Dayna Martin, John Holt, Dr Sarah J Buckley and so on and so on.
I have gained so much inspiration, reassurance and information from these books. I respect the authors greatly and think they have written some really important books that I highly recommend.
But there is not one single author that I feel the need to worship or try to emulate their ideals down to the letter.
Because none of those authors have my children or my exact beliefs on the world.
Robin Grille has one child who goes to school, Dayna Martin is an advocate for the law of attraction, Sandra Dodd is a climate change denier, Naomi Aldort has musically gifted children, Dr Sears has eight children. John Holt had no children.
But the most important difference is that my family is not theirs.
So why would I try to take their words as a step by step instruction manual?
I am my own guru.
I take my unique family and unique views on life into account when I read these books. There are ideas that fit like a glove and then there are ones that don’t serve us at all.
I don’t feel like I have to go against my gut or put my kids into situations that cause drama to please an author I’ve never met.
I’m free to take ideas and inspiration from these amazing authors without making them an expert on a family they have never met.
It’s pretty cool to take that power back and listen to my kids instead.
I’m joining in with Owlet for Unschool Monday