I heart my body. I really do.

by Shae on October 25, 2012

It’s been a year since I paraded around the internet in my undies and it’s that time of year again. I’m back baby!

 

Th road to really and truly hearting my body has been long and I’m not sure there will ever be a time when I feel the love 100% all of the time. But I’m close.

 

I need to tell you what it comes down to.

 

My body deserves as much respect and love as any other. Just because my body does not fit into our society’s ideal does not mean I should feel ashamed.

My body is not wrong. There is, however, a lot wrong  about the incredibly narrow window that passes for beauty and the  ways we set ourselves up to fail reaching that mostly unattainable benchmark.

I deserve to wear no sleeves, long sleeves, skinny jeans, tracksuit pants, leggings, workout gear, fancy dresses and daggy round-the-house clothes without it being any of anyone else’s business.

 

And even swimwear. That’s right motherfuckers, my body has as much right as anyone else’s to be at the beach in swimmers.

My secret to “your best summer body” is simply to wear less clothes that you wore in winter. That’s it.

 

 

I deserve to feel sexy. I deserve to stop entwining my weight with my worth. I deserve to love the body I have right now instead of waiting for the perfect weight to like it.

My body is mine. I own the rights.

 

Same goes for you.

Your body is yours. Own it. Love it. Respect it.

 

I’m joining in with the fabulous I heart my body campaign over at We Heart Life. It’s also on twitter #iheartmybody

Get involved!

 

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Laney @ Crash Test Mummy October 25, 2012 at 8:09 am

Watch out trashy magazines, Shae is about to bring your entire industry crumbling down. “Just wear less clothes than you did in winter”! What will they write about now? 😉

Love your attitude, love you x

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Kirrily October 25, 2012 at 12:36 pm

Yes! This!

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Melissa Mitchell October 26, 2012 at 11:46 am

Best Line Ever.

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Vicky October 25, 2012 at 8:20 am

I love you shae! “Your body is yours. Own it. Love it. Respect it.”

Best words ever!

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Leigh October 25, 2012 at 8:21 am

Fucking love you, you sexy bitch!

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Marita October 25, 2012 at 8:25 am

Shae, I love you. Thank you.

I have every right to wear swimmers.

Will remember that every time I go to the pool with my girls and get those horrible looks from other people.

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Cherie @ we heart life October 25, 2012 at 8:28 am

This is as perfect as you are!

Every one of your pictures, every one of your words, every BIT of your attitude!

This is just … spot … ON!

Congratulations on being 100% awesome!

xo

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katesaysstuff October 25, 2012 at 8:29 am

Hot hot hot.

You truly have one of the best self images of anyone I know. I love it.

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Amelia {Weddings, Babies... Everything} October 25, 2012 at 8:30 am

Beautiful Shae. You are all kinds of awesome. xx

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Mandy October 25, 2012 at 8:37 am

love it Shae, you’re spot on. I’m trying hard, but have a way to go. They are some kick arse swimmers by the way.

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jess @ myheartisyourhome October 25, 2012 at 8:59 am

You have the best body attitude and confidence Ive seen!
Check out those swimmers, they are perfect!

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Catherine Rodie Blagg (Cup of Tea and a Blog) October 25, 2012 at 10:01 am

I fucking love you Shae! When I put my post together last night I thought about stripping off for a photo but chickened out. Then When I saw this post this morning I knew I had to do it xx

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Carly ~ We Heart Life Creator October 25, 2012 at 10:15 am

Shae, have I told you how much I love you? You had me giggling from your first line. I love that you are almost there and your attitude is something I hope that I have soon xx

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Kerri Sackville October 25, 2012 at 10:29 am

THAT, my friend, is an awesome post. Your smile and your attitude have me grinning from ear to ear. They are both magnificent. As is the red bra.
Now if only my stupid back would stop KILLING me I might heart my body too….

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Kylez @ A Study in Contradictions October 25, 2012 at 10:30 am

Fantastic post! I absolutely love it, it’s totally inspiring. Your swimsuit is gorgeous and you look awesome in it! Where did you get it? I’m on the hunt for a new one.

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Danimezza October 25, 2012 at 10:36 am

YOU ROCK!!!

Those SARA swimmers look amaze by the way xx

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Jodi Gibson aka Lipgloss Mumma October 25, 2012 at 10:40 am

I so love this. You are awesome and brought the biggest smile to my face.

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Lyndal October 25, 2012 at 11:15 am

LOVE your summer body secret, just love it. I’m going to remember that in the upcoming magazine onslaught that will tell me otherwise!

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Nikki @ Styling You October 25, 2012 at 11:22 am

You absolutely rock Shae … and are a pin-up girl for my swimwear post yesterday. We just need to build a bridge over our issues and work it!

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Sass October 25, 2012 at 11:32 am

I LOVE this post so much!

~Sass We Heart Life
<3

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Jess WhoaMamma October 25, 2012 at 12:25 pm

Love it!
Love you, love your words, love your swimmers.
You own it & you’re rockin’ it, baby.
xxxxxxx

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Kirrily October 25, 2012 at 12:39 pm

You’re the best. Around. And nothing’s ever gonna keep you down… oh, sorry, channelling a bit of old Karate Kid there for a second.

But really, honestly, this is the kind of thing that needs to be in women’s magazines! It needs consistently and constantly shouted out loud to drown out the “incredibly narrow (largely unattainable) window” push that is rammed down society’s throats.

Love your work. xxx

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Glowless October 25, 2012 at 1:11 pm

You rock my world x

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Syrenex October 25, 2012 at 1:32 pm

Fabulous post, fabulous body, fabulous person…

Love it all!

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Gemma Nutshell October 25, 2012 at 1:44 pm

‘ken oath: I deserve to love the body I have right now instead of waiting for the perfect weight to like it.

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Paige October 25, 2012 at 2:08 pm

There is nothing more beautiful than a confident woman. Goodness. I wish my role-models were as kick-ass as you when I was a teenager. You would make the best “Auntie Shae” and you most certainly do rock that swimming costume. :)

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Veggie mama October 25, 2012 at 2:35 pm

You are fucking awesome.

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corrie October 25, 2012 at 2:39 pm

I always love what you have to say! so cool! I wish growing up I could have the internet and blogs and curvy ladies instead of reading dolly with waifs in it. I would have probably felt a lot better about myself and not tortured my body with diet after diet!

gorgeous pics and laughing at your summer wardrobe advice!

Corrie:)

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Rhi @ Hummingbird's Song October 25, 2012 at 2:58 pm

You rock xx

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Maria Tedeschi (Mum's Word) October 25, 2012 at 3:02 pm

“My body is mine. I own the rights.” That should be on t-shirts.

Love & stuff
Mrs M

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Carli October 25, 2012 at 11:22 pm

Absolutely what she said!

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Alex aka Whoa Mumma October 25, 2012 at 3:19 pm

Fabulous!

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Wanderlust October 25, 2012 at 3:47 pm

Well hot damn, look at you!! I LOVE this. My favorite post so far (and I’ve read through maaaaany tonight). Thank you, thank you, thank you for not apologizing about your body. Seriously, thank you.

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Jayne October 25, 2012 at 3:56 pm

You rock that leopard print cossie, Shae!

A very thin ex-friend of mine once ranted on Facebook how ‘they’re called Skinny Jeans, not Make You Skinny Jeans’. I call bullshit.

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Beck October 25, 2012 at 4:17 pm

Love love love this post !!! You rock lady, I love ya, your an inspiration xxxx

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Bel October 25, 2012 at 4:25 pm

Awesome! You rock the swim suit anyways!!

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edenland October 25, 2012 at 4:26 pm

It would be impossible to love you more, at this point. XXXXXX

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Kim @frogpondsrock October 25, 2012 at 4:26 pm

Sing it Sister! xx

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carmen October 25, 2012 at 4:26 pm

Woohoo! Go YOU!!
Love it girl!! xx

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Melissa {Suger} October 25, 2012 at 4:30 pm

Wear less clothes! HA. I got it, loud and clear. Love that line.

This post is amazing, you’re so cool, and I love your boobs too. they absolutely need to be WHL ambassador boobs. the size and shape and definition and colour of your body needn’t matter, there is no shame in the body. Did I mention you’re the best? You really are.

Gushing over and out.

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Good Golly Miss Holly! October 25, 2012 at 4:50 pm

The day we FINALLY meet, I am going to slap your ass and motorboat those boobs of yours. You are a fox x

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Leonie October 25, 2012 at 7:19 pm

I Love you Shae!! This post is Freakin’ AWESOME!! go you beautiful girl!

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Jac at Common Chaos Chronicle October 25, 2012 at 7:32 pm

This is my favourite post by far. You are a feckin’ legend. I might actually be looking forward to summer now 😉 xox

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Karen October 25, 2012 at 7:35 pm

You had me at ‘motherfuckers’. I’ve spent more time than I care to admit not wearing short sleeves or shorts. You are a badass, and I love it!

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Tam October 25, 2012 at 7:37 pm

Ha – and the teenage girls in their heels and short skirts think *they* own the street and the beach. How wrong they are!

Adore your red bra, by the way.

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Carly Findlay October 25, 2012 at 9:12 pm

I love your smile Shae

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Omega October 25, 2012 at 10:53 pm

so much gorgeousness in this post, inside and out. You’re awesome :)

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Rach October 25, 2012 at 11:08 pm

You are fabulous, you look fabulous especially the red bra loved that and your blog is fabulous. Your summer etiquette has now become my guiding light xxx

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Bina October 25, 2012 at 11:31 pm

“Your body is yours. Own it. Love it. Respect it.”
Yes! Love this post. Awesome. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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Salz October 25, 2012 at 11:51 pm

You are just hilarious. You have a right to wear whatever you want. everyone has a right to wear whatever they want. Just as long as you are confident in what you wear who cares about other people.

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Emily October 25, 2012 at 11:58 pm

He’ll yeah Shae! You are awesome. This is empowering. I love it!

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Robyn (@slightly_deep) October 26, 2012 at 12:15 am

This is my favourite heart my body post! I just love what you have said. There are so many beautiful, beautiful bodies out there… and I hate the fact that we believe the lie perpetrated by society that you have to be skinny in order to be beautiful. You are seriously awesome, and beautiful!

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Twitchy October 26, 2012 at 12:18 am

Your beaming face makes me beam xxxx

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eccentricess October 26, 2012 at 1:25 am

I love everything you have written.
I support everything you have written.
xx

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Farmers Wifey October 26, 2012 at 1:29 am

God I love this, respect yes!!!!!! You look so happy and seriously beautiful xo Michelle

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Amy Bradstreet October 26, 2012 at 5:29 am

Echoing all those before me, I love you, Shae. I really, really do. Your summer advice is spot-on and you look hawt in your swimsuit and more, you look like you think you look hawt, which is the more important bit. xo

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Rachel from Redcliffe Style October 26, 2012 at 8:04 am

Great post!! I am ready to strip off for summer now :) Rachel xx

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Elisha October 26, 2012 at 8:24 am

Confidence outshines body size any day! And you look Fab!
Eden mentioned you in her latest post, so glad i came and checked you out! Found a new little blog to read!

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Amy @ MahliMoo October 26, 2012 at 8:30 am

Where did you get your swimmers? I need them!

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Shae October 26, 2012 at 1:34 pm

They are Sara swimmers from ezibuy :)

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Cassandra J (@LittleOliverJ) October 26, 2012 at 10:31 am

Best summer body tip I’ve ever heard. My gym currently had a ‘get hot for summer’ sign out the front which I loath.
You are a gorgeous lady.
X

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Kate - Crazy Crunchy Chocolate Mummy October 26, 2012 at 11:18 am

You are amazing! Everything about this post is fantastic!

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Sam October 26, 2012 at 9:03 pm

I read this post a few hours ago and have had a wonderful afternoon since, travelling around the blogosphere reading about women deciding to accept and love their bodies. Was so inspired I had to get a blog myself and post my own.

You’re all kinds of awesome. Love your spunk.

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Lee October 26, 2012 at 10:38 pm

Your body is awesome and beautiful and sexy. You are so right about skinny model-like bodies not owning the rights to sexy. We all own our own rights. You rock. xx

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Jo October 27, 2012 at 9:17 pm

You and your body rock! Awesome!

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Christine October 28, 2012 at 12:56 am

My partner’s family are all big boned and tall. This is great if you’re a guy, but not so great if your a girl ie, my partner’s niece. She’s 8, and already knows/ believes she’s fat. I can tell her whatever I like till I’m blue in the face, but I’m just one person in her world, which seems to constantly reaffirm to her that’s she’s too big- her own mother, girls at school, clothing, everything.

Even my own partner struggles with what the scales tell him. Currently, they’re at 120kg, and he’s unhappy with that, he hates how he looks…. yet when he lies on his side, his belly doesn’t slump and he can run around and keep up with his 6 year old nephew very well. Like his neice, and his brothers and father, he is broad shouldered and broad hipped.

So :(

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Vanessa @ babblingbandit.me October 28, 2012 at 8:13 am

I heart this bit:

I deserve to feel sexy. I deserve to stop entwining my weight with my worth. I deserve to love the body I have right now instead of waiting for the perfect weight to like it.

I’m going to print it out and put it on my wall about my laptop as a reminder. I might even get it printed on a t-shirt.

Thanks. Great post. So inspired.

V.

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Reservoir Dad October 28, 2012 at 8:26 pm

Nice work Shae!

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Lisa Wood October 29, 2012 at 9:02 pm

Gee I so wish I looked that good in swimmers :)
Love this one – you look so happy and that is what is really important…beautiful xxx

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Allana October 30, 2012 at 6:10 pm

Love! You rock! Thankyou :)

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Deb @ Bright and Precious November 1, 2012 at 3:49 pm

I read this post last week and adored it. Just passing by now to say YOU ROCK. What you say about body image/issues always hits me and inspires me. You speak truth and it cuts through so much crap out there.

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Lucy November 3, 2012 at 2:07 pm

Hot. Goddess. An A grade goddess. xx

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SarahMac November 9, 2012 at 9:50 pm

What a great post. I don’t heart my body one little bit. You are great. Thank you.

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coffeepoweredmom November 10, 2012 at 1:06 am

I found your post through the I Heart My Body campaign, and I just really wanted to tell you that you look beautiful, sexy and amazing; especially in your swimsuit! That photo shows off your confidence in yourself and it is an amazing and inspiring photo. Thank you!

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